Born with the caregiving gene deeply imbedded into my being, this was a hard one for me to understand. I felt if I put myself first then I was selfish. It took a session with a marriage counselor for me to put things into perspective.
He told me that I needed to be number one in my life. If I didn't take care of myself and my needs, then I wasn't prepared to adequately take care of others and their needs.
It was a hard lesson to learn but I believe it helped me move on to a very successful nineteen year marriage.
Where do you put yourself?