Monday, July 28, 2014

Motivation Monday: Fear


  1. I'm afraid of spiders. 
  2. I'm afraid to make a fool of myself. 
  3. I'm afraid to travel where I can't read or speak the language.
  4. I'm afraid of trying new foods.
  5. I'm afraid of changing my routines.
But over time I have somewhat beaten all but number one. I no longer worry about what others think of me. I moved to Ecuador where I don't read and barely speak the Spanish language. Thanks to friends and cruises, I have tried many new foods. Okay, number five is still a work in progress - I am a bit OCD at times.

I never thought I could ski - at age 45 I paid $25 to participate in New York state's Ski it to Believe it program. I got a ski rental, a lift ticket and basic lesson. Before the day was out I had fallen up the hill, down the hill, on the hill - but found out I loved it!

At age 55 I took a Motorcycle Safety Foundations (MSF) approved riding course. Since then I have ridden 100,000 miles, over 30k of those alone. I have ridden in all 48 states. I turned age 66 while riding Route 66 with my husband, on my Harley-Davidson.

I got my first tattoo at age 54 and eventually got several more. I no longer think about what others might say, each and every one has personal meaning to me.

I still work to conquer fears, I often picture the worst (and plan for it) but hope for the best. I'm finding that living in a foreign country is helping me to fear less and live more!

Do you have fears that are holding you back personally or professionally?


  1. I'm scared of spiders, but that just instigates a lot of screaming, stomping, and smashing.

    The thing that scares me the most is losing my family members. I sometimes get worked up with "what-ifs". Every time a school shooting makes it on the news, it terrifies me, because my daughter is already attending public pre-school.

    I suppose there's not much to do to get rid of that fear, but to put it aside. I fear what I can't control. :)

    1. I will never get over my fear of spiders, I hate seeing pictures and scroll real fast.

      Losing family is tough but you are right, you can't control it so putting it aside is better mentally and emotionally. ;)

  2. Donna--I just discovered your site, and your sister site on living in Ecuador, from a link at Five-Sentence-Fiction. Enjoyed your thoughts on Fear, and look forward to exploring more and reading your fiction.

    Also, wondered if you'd be willing to share your Writing process ideas? This is kind of new to me but recently, a writer at the site Red Wolf Poems asked me to participate in a writing process blog tour. Would you be willing to take part in it also? There are only three questions: What are you working on? Why do you write what you do? How does your writing process work?

    The project works like this: I post my answers, and if you agree to try it, I introduce you at the end of my post. Then you answer and invite 3 more writer/bloggers to participate.
    Thanks for considering.

    1. Sorry for the delay in responding, I'd love to participate. Off to check out your blog. Thanks so much for visiting and commenting!

  3. Inspirational post, Donna. I think as one ages there is a danger of becoming even more fearful (I'm too old, too weak, etc.) and that the only way of avoiding it is to take on some of those fears and prove to yourself that you are more capable than you first thought. You have certainly proved it!

    1. Thanks, Mel. I think losing my husband in 2004 helped me realize that you don't know what tomorrow will bring and we need to celebrate each day as it comes!

  4. I think I will always be afraid if spiders. And it gets worse the older I become.

    However the older I become.e the less I care about others opinions. I just me. Like me or don't like me. Its entirely up to you.


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